Staying safe through conversation: Speaking to teens about sexual health

Published November 5 2021 inSexual Health

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Talking about sex can be awkward, especially if you are talking to a teenager. Though likely uncomfortable for both parties involved, the conversation is necessary and an important step in preparing your child for a safe and healthy sex life. We hope this blog can provide some practical advice to facilitate the conversation.

The key to open and constructive conversations about sex and sexuality is trust. Approaching the conversation with a willingness to listen to your child, answer questions truthfully and openly and withholding any judgement, is essential to ensuring that your child feels heard and is forthcoming.

Talking about sex makes a difference

A survey conducted by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy found that parents had the biggest influence on the sexual decisions made by teens, more so than friends, siblings, or the media. The survey also found that teens were more likely to delay sex and use protection if they were able to speak openly and honestly with their parents.

Talking to your child comprehensively about sex, relationships, HIV, STIs and pregnancy is the best way to protect your child. Here are some places to start.

Try to find out where your child is getting their information from

No doubt your child is absorbing information about sex from a variety of sources such as in school, from friends, on TV and social media. Be aware that some of the information they are taking in is likely inaccurate and that your child probably has some misconceptions.

Start conversations

Instead of having ‘the talk’, try approaching the topic through a series of frequent conversations that start early and continue over time. This can be less intimidating than one long lecture and can help to normalise the discussion.

Avoid overreaction

Talking about sex, health and relationships can be highly personal. When your child shares personal information let them know that you are grateful for their openness. Show that you value their feelings and opinions, even if they are different from your own.

Open routes between your child and medical professionals

Encourage your child to speak to medical providers about their sexual health and be prepared to grant them privacy with a doctor or nurse to discuss any concerns they may have. Better2Know can arrange a consultation with a sexual health provider and have a wide range of STI tests and screens available for added peace of mind.

Speak to us in confidence

Have any questions about sexual health? Speak to one of our sexual health advisors over the phone or through our live online webchat. Better2Know can also assist in connecting you with a sexual health clinic near you and facilitate confidential consultation appointments and STI testing.