How to tell your ex you have an STI

Published December 28 2013 inSexual Health
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It is really important if you have an STI to tell your current and former partners, to encourage them to get tested, and to avoid passing the infection around to others. But speaking up about a STI, especially to an ex, can be difficult.

 

Tell your ex directly:

Whether it’s a treatable infection, or a lifelong diagnosis, the best thing to do is tell your former partner yourself. You may not have had the best break up but your ex has the right to know, even if they only have a small chance of having the STI. Phoning, email or a face-to-face conversation, are the best ways to tell ex. But if you don’t want to do it yourself there are other options.

Use your local health department:

Local health departments usually ring you up if your STI results are positive, to give you the results and make sure you receive the correct treatment. The health care professional on the phone will most likely offer to tell your past partners to get tested for you, while keeping your identity anonymous, providing you give them a list of your sexual partners in the last year. If the caller doesn’t offer this service, you can just ask them for it.

Use the internet:

InSPOT, a website run by a non-profit sexual health service, allows people to namelessly alert past or present sexual partners of a STI diagnosis, shows individuals where to find more information on STIs, and encourages them to get tested.

This guest post was written by Jessica Delaney a communication student at Sheffield Hallam University.

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Mike has been delivering world class Sexually Transmitted Infections testing services to Better2Know patients around the world for over ten years. He has written extensively on the subject, including numerous blogs for Better2Know which are designed to demystify the complex intricacies of sexual health testing. Mike wants to help his readers understand the risks they take in their daily sexual lives and provide the information they need when choosing an STI or STD test in a clear, concise and understandable way. Mike is particularly interested in writing about viral STIs like HIV and Hepatitis, as these infections can have a devastating impact on people’s lives if they are not diagnosed quickly. Only through being well informed can you best care for your health, and Mike is passionate about sharing his knowledge and experience to help you and all his readers lead a happier, healthier life.